If I ask my friends to do something special for me, I always give gifts. When they helped me move, I fed them dinner. When they let me sleep on their couch, I brought them smoked salmon and paid for dinner one night. If they visit Seattle, I offer a place to stay and give them a tour. I never feel it’s enough.
My co-worker Jennifer’s friend Stephanie expects a bit more. Stephanie is from Chicago and staying with Jennifer at her house. She’s interviewing for accounting jobs in Seattle and she borrows Jennifer’s car to drive to interviews. Stephanie asked Jennifer if she could take her to breakfast. Jennifer agreed and Stephanie said good; now I don’t have to fill up your gas tank. Jennifer says it’s her $50 breakfast.
Stephanie arrived with multiple suitcases so she didn’t have to move as much stuff in June when she moves to Seattle. Jennifer is afraid she wants to store the stuff at her house until then.
Stephanie has 2 cats and Jennifer has 3 cats. Stephanie asked Jennifer to come to Chicago in June and help drive Stephanie’s 2 cats to Seattle in 24 hours. She doesn’t want to pay to ship the cats. Jennifer’s still thinking about that request. She’s afraid Stephanie wants her to look after the cats while she finds a house.
Stephanie complained about the cable not working, so Jennifer called the cable company. Stephanie did hang around and meet the cable guy.
Jennifer has two spare bedrooms downstairs. Stephanie spread her stuff around both bedrooms.
Jennifer asked Stephanie to please put her dirty dishes in the dishwasher. She left them lying on the counter.
Jennifer says she’s a “patsy”, easily taken advantage of.
What do you think? Do you have friends who expect a bit much at times? I’d love to hear about it.